Contact Them before You Move In
Once you get that letter, go ahead and type their name into your Facebook search bar. Obviously, there might be a few people with the same name if their name is common, but either way, go with your best instincts on who it is. Send them a message and introduce yourself to let them know that you’re friendly and that you’ll be rooming with them.
Normally, people would find this a little weird but I assure you that just about everyone does it, even if they tell you that they don’t. Unless they just completely don’t care, they at least took a peek to see what their potential roommate looks like or what they might have in common via Facebook.
Once you do that and you move in, it might be good to set some ground rules for the year.
- How often the bathroom should be cleaned, complete with a schedule of rotating individuals.
- Who takes the trash out.
- Whether or not you’re comfortable with a ton of visitors all the time.
- No showering with anyone but yourself!
- Asking before you use each other’s things.
Add to the list! Customizing your ground rules to how you want it is a great idea. Setting these ground rules helps keep people accountable and sets the tone for the year. It’ll teach you how to respect each other, and ultimately, how to become good friends over the course of the year. It is also a good barrier to preventing one of the roommates from hell.
If you need to, have a mediator. Your RA will gladly help you – it’s part of their job to do so anyways. Go ahead and knock on their door and ask them if they can help you resolve the issue at hand. Explain to them your situation and give your roommate a chance to explain theirs. Doing this will promote a healthy environment and it will lead to a productive solution in the end.
Seriously though, just be happy for one another. It’s important to building your relationship. People go away from home for college and sometimes have nobody to turn to for support. They’re by themselves at school and they want someone to connect with and have their back at all times. Be that person.
Do you have any other tips for getting along with your college roommate?